The sexual practice of edging and how to do it in the bedroom

Surfing isn’t just for the sea, it’s also for sex.

Edging, otherwise known as peaking or surfing, is the art of controlling an orgasm during sex.

More specifically it’s the practice of stopping yourself from reaching orgasm when you’re on the edge, right before you fall into sexual climax.

Why would you want to do that, you ask? It’s simple. Stopping an orgasm or stopping yourself from coming, waiting a while and then beginning to stimulate yourself again, can create a more intense orgasm.

It also extends the duration of sexual activity, resulting in prolonged pleasure, either alone or with a partner.

So how do you do it?

Begin by engaging in sexual activity, it can be alone or with a partner, and simply do what feels good.

As you feel yourself moving towards climax or ejaculation either stop stimulation all together, or change pace or movement to prevent yourself from finishing.

Make sure to communicate to your partner when you reach this point so you both know to stop.

Wait momentarily while you come down from the near climax – if you’re with a partner you can kiss or talk dirty to each other – then when you know you won’t come straight away, begin sexual stimulation again.

This cycle can be repeated as many times as you want and when you finally climax, that tumble over the edge will be orgasmic.

Masturbating with a penis

There are a couple of edging techniques you can try if you ejaculate, which are sure to deliver immense pleasure.

The squeeze method involves stimulating yourself to orgasm and before you climax, squeeze the head of your penis to stop the orgasm.

Then simply wait a moment and start stimulating yourself again, then repeat as many times as you like before letting yourself come.

Ballooning is another method which evidence suggests can help with premature ejaculation.

Simply find an area on your penis that’s especially sensitive and stimulate only that area by gently moving your finger around in a circular motion. Don’t stimulate anywhere else.

Keep doing the circular motions until you’re fully hard and near orgasm, then stop touching yourself and let yourself go a little soft before beginning stimulation again.

However for this method to work, you mustn’t let yourself come. It’s about developing the ability to control your orgasm, the idea being that when you’rein bed with a partner, you’ll be able to prolong sex.

What are the benefits?

We’ve already mentioned it has the potential to make your orgasms more powerful, so what other rewards can you reap?

Practicing the art of edging may actually make it easier to orgasm during sex, especially if you practice it when masturbating.

Those who experience premature ejaculation will find it prolongs the sexual act before the final event.

Prolonging the journey to climax may also help couples to connect more and become more intimate with each other, improving their relationship and communication.

Edging forces couples to discuss what gets them off and to learn each others sexual triggers for climax, which can only make sex better.

Something to keep in mind

Whenever engaging in the practice of edging with a partner, make sure you have consent to withhold the orgasm.

Doing this repeatedly throughout your sexual encounters and prioritising the method during sex can lead to distress or relationship conflict — so always make sure you are on the same page.

There are some concerns that edging can leave to ‘blue balls’ which is the build up of blood in the testicles if you don’t come but this isn’t necessarily true.

If you find that your testicles are feeling slightly uncomfortable simply hold your nose and blow, like you’re popping your ears, and this should fix the problem.

It won’t cause any long term health issues or anything to be concerned about.